Pixie Post

Monday, April 24, 2006

Letter to a heart-broken friend

What can I say to a friend, far away, who is hurting?
Here is a happy quilt-of-the-day that ought to raise a smile. The chickens were made by friends and put together by me as a housewarming present for a friend who moved to her dream home in the country. It's a great place to visit and one day I'll take you there. (commercial pattern - designer will get a credit when I can find it!)

1. Keep busy. Occupy your hands and your head will follow. Before you notice, whole hours will go by without thinking about how hurt you are.

2. Know that you are loved. Lots of people love you. Go on, count 'em. I can think of 7 or 8 people who love you. I'm sure you can think of more. There are a whole lot more who care about you a lot too.

3. What's good about you? Lots of things. Think about them. You're a great parent. You make people laugh. You are loyal. You know a good Sav Blanc when you taste one. What else? Acknowledge your strengths. No-one and nothing can take them away.

4. Know that this is a moment in time, and it will pass. One day it will be a memory. This feeling is not forever.

5. Figure out what works for you. Is it better not to see the hurtful person? Don't see them. Do you need to rant and rave and tell them how you feel? Does that really make you feel better? Do what works. You owe them nothing, especially not any more of your precious time.

6. Read some inspiring words. Check this out for starters. Discardian has some great words.

7. Talk to someone. Pay someone neutral to listen to you talk if that makes you feel better. But talk, talk, talk to someone who will listen, and who has intelligent advice and tough questions to ask you.

8. Go look at the moon. It's beautiful isn't it? Know that I can see it too, and I am with you.

Does anyone have any more advice?

5 comments:

Fran├žoise said...

Read "The Art of Happiness" by the Dalai Lama. This will soothe you. Life is beautiful.

Ali Honey said...

Hi Pixie, I am excited at finding another New Zealand Blogger. Thanks for your comments on my site.
Perhaps you could add to that list...write it down, pour out your heart on paper.( or a blog ) Now I know your Blog is here I will be back and I will add you to my links. Regards Ali.

The Editter said...

lovely words, pixie. and I love those strutting chickens!

kathy said...

This is lovely, down to earth advice for a friend whom you truly love...so nice..I hope I have friends as loyal as you.

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